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So using the word ?no? can actually help in advancing your career and getting you noticed as someone who is decisive, and values their time. This tool is also imperative for life balance. Is that a problem in the great U S of A? You betcha! Today?s American worker is working 30 days more a year than just three years ago. We are asked to do more and more with fewer resources. Many of us are using our vacations to get control of the work load at home ? painting, repairs, remodeling. If you can learn to say ?no? more assertively and make better choices with your time ? you will actually have more time to get done what you want to get done. One of the problems with getting our lives into balance is that we are doing for everyone else in our life that there is no time left over for ourselves. Exercise program? 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